I think one of the most heartbreaking parts of Virginia Woolf's "Mrs. Dalloway" is when the beloved Septimus Smith commits suicide.
It was especially difficult on me to read because I saw myself in Septimus and was able to relate to him on a personal level. He was such a kind and gentle young man, full of potential (he had strong passion for poetry and the arts), but instead of being believed in he was basically made fun of for who he was and what he loved, which pressured him to act a certain way and do certain things in order to feel more accepted by society (i.e. In his case, becoming more "manly" by going to war). I think we all are able to empathize with Septimus being forced to endure this harsh judgement because sometimes we feel like we have to act like somebody else just to feel accepted by those around us.
Being able to relate to this character, I could sense that all Septimus really wanted was a friend, someone who understands him. Luckily, he found this companionship in Evans, a fellow soldier whom he became friends with. They spent long nights talking and quarrelling in their bunkers. Septimus looked up to Evans -- he was all Septimus really had. And then Evans is killed right in front of him.
Following the war, Septimus still blindly follows the advice previously given to him about toughening up and being more 'manly' (some parts of this book are just
perfect examples of toxic masculinity), so he completely transforms into a different person than he was before. He becomes almost emotionless, no longer "feeling"; when Evans dies, he doesn't shed one tear, but thinks of this as something to be proud of because, hey, he's more of a real man now right?
Something scary that came to me while reading this book is the realization that the stigma of mental health that was depicted in this book which was set back in the 1900's, an era where we see alot of the things they viewed in their society as "backwards", are quite honestly
still prevalent today. When Septimus is taken to Dr. Holmes by his caring wife and explains his situation to the doctor, he's told to just stop being so depressed and to just "be happy". Septimus was left wallowing even deeper in his agony and emptiness, and reasonably so -- instead of getting the help he needs for his mental illnesses, he was (once again!!) judged harshly and basically put down/made fun of for being too "emotional". I could empathize with him at this point in the book because even today, if you tell someone that you're feeling down or think you might actually be depressed, you're told to stop being too overly emotional and just suck it up. You might even be told that admitting your feelings of sadness and thoughts of suicide puts a burden on your loved ones. Dr. Holmes tells Septimus that he is burdening his wife by telling her he wants to kill himself. This is a very vivid image of what many people today going through what Septimus went through are told when they admit having these thoughts and feelings.
There are just so many things we can deduce from the tragedy of Septimus Smith in Mrs. Dalloway. It's both bitter and sweet because although his story really is sad and upsetting, it does bring a person some comfort that he at least made an effort to live his life to the fullest, finding a friend amidst the war and marrying an amazing person like Lucrezia. In the story, he has one last joyful moment full of laughter and happiness with his wife, before taking his life.